Throughout our lifetime, we will constantly have to deal with new and evolving relationships with different people at different points. To create a multitude of healthy relationships with other human beings is in the nature of all humans, for it is with other relationships with people that we can grow as our own person. However, there are a number of different and variances of relationships that we as humans will have to make in our lifetime, and the comprehension of how these relationships affect us lay in understanding how these connections react with each other and the boundaries between each type of relationship. Of any relationship, there are a complex amount of emotions and time that both of the parties have to put in to make the relationship a healthy one. Alas, there are relationships that we will have with people that will, for whatever reason, not work out in the end. Whether it be because you have simply lost contact with that person, or because you have had a falling out with that person, some relationships were not just made to last. Oftentimes, we go on with our lives without reflecting back upon how many relationships we have lost over time and distance with people we were once close with. I know that I myself have been guilty of this, one certain example of this of how I, over time, cut all ties with my former friends in my old neighborhood in Philadelphia. Sometimes, it is not intentional, such as in that example that I had just given. Other times, a relationship ends because it is not nurtured. If you create a relationship with someone, and then forget all about them, then the relationship is obviously going to deteriorate. To keep a stable, healthy relationship with a person is one that takes time and effort to create, and even more time to keep. However, a relationship ending is not always a bad thing. For example, if it was an abusive relationship, whether physically, mentally, or emotionally, then that relationship ending is oftentimes something to celebrate. It all depends on the people inside of that relationship, as well as the circumstances surrounding the relationship. Each situation is different. With human nature, there can be no generalizations. But how do people know when they are in a toxic relationship? Oftentimes, it is when these people sit back and reflect upon how they felt before and during the relationship do they decide whether or not to leave it. Also, it is when they realize that they have to constantly think about where they stand in a relationship that they are made aware that they are most likely in a toxic relationship. A healthy relationship does not make you question where you stand, because in a healthy relationship, both parties treat each other with the respect that they respectively deserve. To have to constantly think about where you stand in a relationship is often a sign that you should leave the relationship. An example of my personal life that I can give is, when I was younger, I had a “best friend” whom I treated with respect, but oftentimes made me feel as if I was inferior to them. Once I got to thinking about where I stood in the mind of this person, I realized that I was thinking these thoughts too often to be in a healthy relationship with this person, and thus decided to walk away from this relationship. Honestly, I felt so much better after I had ended contact with this person. “If you’re constantly having to wonder where you stand with someone, maybe it’s time to stop standing and start walking.”
I shared my blog with Mrs. Mandell at sfmandell@gmail.com since my blog is personal this time and I really wrote from my heart in this blog, I do not really wish to share it with the others.
“If you’re constantly having to wonder where you stand with someone, maybe it’s time to stop standing and start walking.” This quote could have a plethora of meanings and could mean something different for so many people. It could apply to you or maybe it doesn’t apply to you. You may have some experience with something that this quote could apply to you, or maybe you have been lucky enough to not stand in a position as hard as this. The situations that many people globally have experienced could make sense with quote, but it all depends of the situation you were in, what you experienced, and how it could relate to this quote. Right off the bat, I think of relationships with this quote. Not just romantically, but also friendship and/or relationships that have to do with someone or multiple people in your family. It could deal with romantic relationships as far as being ghosted by someone you thought liked you or haven’t hearing anything from a loved one for days or weeks or even years at a time. You would wonder if they still like you and you wait and wait and wait for a definitive answer, but that definitive answer you may be looking for from that one person may never come. And although it might be the hardest thing to do, it is truly the best thing to do and that is to just walk away. It can be so hard for people to leave other people that they thought really loved them, even if they had been treated horribly by them. If that other person in the relationship is not willing to give you the love, care, attention, and honesty that you need, it may be toxic to even remain with them. Don’t think you are being mean or cheating them over, you are being the strong person and leaving a relationship that you were left deserted and lonely in. If your partner is not providing you with what you need and not treating you well, there is a problem. With no trust or honesty, there is no relationship. This reminds of another quote that I’ve seen before that stated, “A relationship shouldn’t be like a phone with no service. Because what do you do with a phone with no service? You play games. ” This relates so perfectly with this topic. You may still love and care for them, but if they are treating you like dirt or leaving you confused at all with where you’re relationship stands, the best thing to do would honestly be to break it up. Tell them that they have mistreated you and walk away from the toxic relationship that you were once stuck in. Just remember that there are so many other fish in the sea and sometimes, the best thing to do is to keep walking when you’re left standing and waiting for an answer for much too long. Next are the friendships. The broken friendships, most of the time, will hurt 10 times more than a breakup with a boyfriend. I don’t know why, but they tend to be a lot harder for some people. If you have a friend who doesn’t treat you with respect, honesty, or any of the other important friend traits that are needed for a good and healthy relationship, it may be best to leave that friendship behind. It is totally fine to have more than one friend, but if you start to become unloyal and rude to that one friend that has been with you since the beginning, then there is something wrong happening. I have more than one friend, but I still need to stay loyal and good to my main ones. My best friends that have been there since the very beginning and knew me before I even knew myself, must remain with you through everything. No matter how many fights or disagreements, you should never turn your back on the people that are there for you the most. Even when it feels like they wronged you or hurt your feelings, talk it out. There is almost always so much more to be seen than what is on the surface, applying to problems in a friendship. Maybe you misheard a rumor or said the wrong thing, but you should always find your way back and stay true to those who are willing to stay true to you. But if that friend is telling all your secrets or not trying their best to keep in touch with you, there is something wrong.
Now I’m not saying if you don’t go to the mall or hang out with your best friend everyday to stop talking to them, but I am saying that if you have a friend that puts you down and is constantly pressuring you into doing the wrong things, then you need to keep walking and stop standing there waiting for an answer because sometimes the answer you are looking for, may never even come. Lastly, I think of the relationships and close bonds you have with your family. I don’t have much to say on this because I believe the quote relates to romantic relationships and friendships more. But I will say that if your family is treating you bad or not giving you respect or love because of something, you should definitely talk to them or get some help. Family is the one thing that I believe in very strongly. I think that no matter how bad you mess up, your family should be there for you. That is exactly what I follow everyday. No matter how bad I mess up, or get bullied, or feel horrible, I know that back home, my family will always be there for me to provide me with the love, care, and reassurement that I might so badly need in that moment. I think that family will never fail you, not literally of course, but in the state of feeling wanted they never will. I go back home everyday, no matter how bad my day wa, and they are always there to make me feel better. My family is the one thing that never leaves me standing and i know that I will never just be standing there, waiting on an answer from them because I already know it. There are so many instances that could relate to this quote, but it really just depends on who you are, what experiences you have been in, and how you deal with them. In conclusion, if you are ever left standing by yourself and waiting for an answer, even if it’s not the one you want, you should keep walking. Some harmful people and relationships truly should not be worth your time, energy, and feelings.
This past month has been pretty tough for me. Between studying for the NJASK science, practicing for cross country, and just getting myself athletically fit for my upcoming high school cross country and track season. Between all of this, I always wondered how I compared with all the other runners who I competed with. I came in 2nd last year in the meet of champions, and I was trying to become the fastest runner in the district this year. I worked hard during practice and I gradually improved my time. But I always wondered how fast the other guys were. I just wanted to know. I would say that when it comes to sports, I care a little too much about stats. It doesn’t matter which sport it is, I always have to know percentages and other stats. Same thing with cross country. Moreover, I was a little distracted by this fact. When my first meet came up, I was #1, but my overall time was terrible. I was almost a minute slower that what I ran during practice. When I saw my main competitor run in the heat after me, he beat my time by more than a minute. I was distraught. But I realized that instead of me trying to look at their stats, I should have just been training hard. Another example of this is on the emotional aspect. As we have talked in class, we all have lost a couple of our good friends. One time in 8th grade, I was accused of liking someone. This was all fake, and a lot of other emotional drama was basically accused of all the emotional drama surrounding many different problems. I am usually a mentally strong guy. But when I was hit with this type of drama, I was taken back. I had never been part of such chaos. Everyone that I cared about just left me and lined up against me. This deteriorated me. I did not know that people can turn so quickly against you. I was distraught on the lack of trust that my friends had on me. This problem was eventually fixed, but it was too late. A rift was created that could not be fixed. And I always believed that the rift could be fixed. But I was wrong. I always wondered if everything was fixed. But I should have realized that it was time to move on. I eventually did. But I knew that I should have done this a long time ago. Moreover, I think that you need to continuously evaluate your friends. Because you will realize that as you move forth in your life, some of your friends will have different values than you and you will start distancing yourself from them.m You need to constantly evaluate your surroundings because your friends make you up. They represent you. There are hundreds of people in the world who can be your friend. Losing one or couple will not change anything. Life is harsh. DEAL WITH IT! By: Raj Joshi
Wondering where you stand with something or someone can be one of the most paralyzing feelings in the world. You get caught in your thoughts and you can’t figure out what’s true or not. You start making things up that aren’t true and try and make them true and it's not a good place to be. I feel like everybody is at a place like the one time or another. In 7th Grade I started becoming jealous of a fellow dancer named Brian. The reason why was that he started out worse than me and he started easily becoming better than me. I didn’t see why he was getting better than me and it really annoyed me. I thought that he was going to make fun of me and I started playing mental games in my mind. I said that he laughed at me when he didn’t and I also said that he had acted snobby. This caused many people to turn on him and Brian to be miserable. I honestly felt bad but I didn’t know what to do. When I was around Brian I hated him, however when I was home I felt awful around how I interacted around him. Up to almost my last interaction with him I was hostile with him. The quote, “If you’re constantly having to wonder where you stand with someone, maybe it's time to stop standing and start walking.” relates to me. The reason why is I realized my relationship with Brian was poisonous towards both of us. I was being a brat and it caused both of us to suffer from it. I knew I had to just distance myself from Brian and not really interact with him until I matured. I don’t know if I’m there yet, but I know I’m better. A few months ago, I wouldn’t have even been able to have admitted that I was making things up with my relationship with Brian. I would say everything was real and then make more up. So I hope I can come back from my mistakes and fix them to improve myself even more.
Throughout your life, you are going to make friends and lose friends. That is just how life works. It is a terrible feeling to not know where you stand with people, especially with the people you thought you would have forever, and you thought you could trust. I bet all of us have had to go through times in middle school when you had to let go of a friendship that you relied on so much, and put all your time into. Trust me, I have felt that many times. I have lost friends that I loved so much, and I have lost friends that I told everything to, but I had to deal with it. The instance I will talk about has to do with a fight my old best friend and I had this year. I am not going to say any names so let us call them pink (I just made up a random word). Pink and I had just started talking to eachother again in seventh grade after another fight I don’t want to talk about. This year we had gotten extremely close, and we even went to calling each other our other half. I told pink everything, and pink told me everything. We were like a dynamic duo, and we could not be separated. All of that changed one night. There had been a lot of drama going on that day, and a lot of things were being said about others. That night, I had told pink how I felt about the whole situation, and everything I felt at the moment. What I said was nothing that I should have said, and pink did not really enjoy what I was saying. Pink even said that their other friends did not like how we were best friends. After a long conversation, pink ended the friendship, and I was devastated. I cried and cried, not knowing what I did that broke us up. Why would pink care what everyone else thought? Why did pink have to do that to me? I was so confused. After that night, by week went terrible. I was so upset and did not know who to trust anymore. Pink tried coming up to me and I just walked away. I did not want to talk to someone who just “ruined” my life. I could not stand looking at Pink. I had cut her out of my life for a good couple of days. It wasn’t until pink came up to me and said how she felt that I started talking to pink again. While I wasn’t talking to her, people told me she was calling me things, and saying terrible things about me. Pink in my eyes at the time was a back stabber, and I did not know what to do anymore. Now we are like best friends, but we do not call it that anymore. I love Pink and would do anything to keep her safe, but at that time this year, I was forced to just walk away, and leave the friendship behind me. Now I want to talk to everyone reading this and give some advice. If you are in a bad friendship, or one of your best friends just ended the friendship, DO NOT GET UPSET OR WORRY. If they left someone amazing like you, then they were not a friend at all, and you will be able to find someone so much better for you. No matter who you are, you deserve someone who will appreciate you, and stay with you no matter what you say or do in the friendship. They will love you for who you are, and not care about what others say about your friendship. Life has challenges, and these are just the small ones. When you are an adult in your dream job, you are not going to remember what that one person said to you in middle school. Never settle for someone who uses you, or gives up on you easily because you can have so many more better people than that. Do not let one thing ruin you. BE FRIENDS WITH SOMEONE WHO WILL LISTEN TO YOU, AND STAY BY YOUR SIDE EVEN IF YOU SAY SOMETHING THAT HURTS THEM!
To be honest, I’m not completely sure what this quotes means exactly, so I’m going to break it down in the first two paragraphs or so, to help me understand it better and to give the reader a view of how I interpret the quote. “If you're constantly having to wonder where you stand with someone, maybe it’s time to stop standing and start walking.” I'm going to break the quote into two parts, the first part before the comma and the second part after the comma. The first part states, “If you’re constantly having to wonder where you stand with someone.” That could gesture something about acceptance or pride. To ponder where you stand with someone means you’re expecting someone to have a reaction to what you’ve done. You want some sort of desired action from someone. You expect your actions to be recognized and you're wondering what another person thinks of you based on your actions. When you wonder where you stand with someone, you're trying to figure out what someone else may view you as through how they see you and what they’ve seen you do. You want to make a good impression on others and you want to try to impress them. Constantly wondering where you stand with someone means that you're constantly thinking about how others view you and what you could do to possibly make yourself look better to someone else. The second part states “Maybe it’s time to stop standing and start walking.” In my interpretation, that means to stop caring about what other people think, to an extant. It means you shouldn’t completely rule out other people’s thoughts. Take them into consideration, but don’t base everything you do off of them. Think about what you want to do, and even if other people don’t exactly like it, you should do it anyway, within reason. For example, if your interested in tennis, yet everyone around you thinks it’s stupid, as long as you enjoy doing it, then you should play tennis. As long as you're not hindering yourself by taking other people’s opinions into consideration, then you're not standing, your walking. In conclusion, it looks like I’m saying that the quote means to try to be independant some of the time. You should take other people’s opinions and feelings into account, but you should always keep in mind of your own feelings as well. Stop constantly thinking about other people, wondering where you stand with people, and start thinking about yourself and what you want. Stop standing and start walking. However, the main part of this blog was to describe an instance where this applied to me. To the best of my ability and memory, I do not believe this quote has ever been applied to me. I take my own feelings into consideration because I clearly recognize what I want, and even though I do take other people’s feelings and thoughts into consideration, I don’t lose sight of what I want. So, to cut this blog short, this quote has never applied to me, and I doubt it will ever apply to me.
People are extremely complicated. I’d say we’re rather complex with the way that we think feel and behave. People constantly move in and out of your life, as if they are part of a weaving pattern. We don’t really know who will stay and who will leave until people disappear from your life. Until they’ve walked out without a second glance. All throughout our lives, we try to decode who we are and who we want to be and who we think will be there for us. But in reality we don’t have to do that. We could just be patient and wait it out, but that is not part of human nature. We tend to jump the gun, and try to fast forward our lives. We act on impulse, urged by our inner feelings and thoughts. This may lead to conflicts and strife with other people, especially people that we care about.
But, as you may sometimes hurt the people you care about, the people who care about you may also hurt you. People’s true character shows when they go through different experiences and when they react to events that occur. When you realize who people really are, you also begin to wonder where you stand in their lives. I’m the type of person who constantly wonders if I’m appreciated and thought of as much as I think of another person. Ever since I was young, I question where I stand in other people’s lives and what my place is. I try to gage how important I am to them and if I truly mean something to them. Depending on what they see me as, I trust them that much. When I was younger, I never really had that many friends. Even now, my friend circle has expanded but I’m not expeditious to trust people. I have to take my time before I can completely trust people with all my thoughts and feelings.
I feel that I am someone who is worthy of being called a good friend. I tend to always listen and give good advice to people when they need it. But there’s a certain point that everyone lives up to. If when we’re in the middle of a conversation, you begin to cut me off and make the topic about you, I’ll begin to wonder if you really care about me. Sometimes, I’ll understand that you need to get your thoughts off your chest and that you need someone to listen, but if you go on and on about your life, then I don’t feel that is fair. A relationship of any kind, whether it be friendship or more, is a two -way street. If someone makes everything about them, it is no longer an equal bond. For example, if you continuously pile more and more objects on one side of a scale, it’ll get heavier and heavier until there is very little on one side, and the other, weightier side, is all the way down. If you keep putting more on the one side, soon the scale will break. Comparatively, if only one person benefits and benefits from a friendship, soon the friendship will break, because the other person will not want to continue to be used in a friendship.
Friends should be there to help you when you need them most. If you find that, the people who you expected to be with you through everything are not there for you when you needed to depend on them, then it’s time to start thinking about if you really want to be with them. The first time I really started doubting my friendship with someone was during my elementary schools years in dance. I had this one friend who acted one way around me and differently around other people. From her actions, I got the feeling that she would rather hang out with the other girls then me. Once, I even asked if she considered me a close friend. I can’t exactly remember what she responded, but I know that after that I kept my distance. We were still friends, but we were a bit more competitive towards each other and became slightly more possessive over certain friends. But, it taught me a good lesson on how not to continue wondering where I might stand in someone’s life. Ever since then, I’ve had a pretty straightforward approach to how I view myself in other people’s lives.
Now, there’s so much more I can say about this, and I tried not to make this blog too personal, but I’ve learned much over the past few years. I don’t spend too much of my time trying to figure out who I am to someone else. It’s not worth continuously dwelling on a relationship that might be unhealthy or unstable. They should know where they stand in mine and if I give the other person all that I can give and if they do not give 100% back, then I stop wondering and start walking out of their life. I know that if I don’t have to doubt where stand in someone else’s life then they are either not as important to me or they are a factor that I can always depend on in my life. Because people come and go like the waves of the ocean, but only the ones who stay are truly the ones who matter.
“If you’re constantly having to wonder where you stand with someone, maybe it’s time to stop standing and start walking.” I think this is a pretty easy quote to understand. All it is really talking about is if you keep wanting to know if you are still on good terms with a friend or someone or not you should stop being friends or stop talking with them. When you are at school or at work you have to deal with a lot of different people. You form relationships with these people you interact with. Some of them are close and you become good friends with them or you might not have a good relationship and you might feel resentment towards that person. These are all healthy relationships. You need to have some good and bad relationships so that you could grow as a person. In middle school, I made a lot of friends because there were much more people that I did not know. Some of my new friends helped me get into things I would not have known about otherwise, like anime or some book series. Then I made more friends who also had similar interests as me. Of course, not all of them were like that. I had friends in elementary school who I used to hang out with and when we came to middle school I never really talked to them again. Either because they found a new group to be a part of or they changed over the summer by becoming more arrogant and rude; which is the kind of people I do not like to be friends with. Like this year I had a friend who used to sit with me on the bus and then one day he decided to sit with the popular kids at the back of the bus. I am still sort of friends with him but we are not as close as we were in elementary school. Going back to the quote I have never been in a “friendship” like that, so I do not personally understand what it feels but I do know people who have had a relationship like that. If you are constantly thinking about what another person thinks of you I would not be friends with them. I generally do not care about what other people think of me but if I did I would just cut ties with them. I would never want to be stressing out about what someone is thinking of me. Being constantly worried about what someone is saying to their friends about you behind your back. They are not really your friends if are talking about you behind your back. The second part of the quote says, “Maybe it’s time to stop standing and start walking.” That shows that if you are doubting someone because they seem like the are not honest or anything else a friend should be with you, you should just walk away from them and stop being friends with them.
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Throughout our lifetime, we will constantly have to deal with new and evolving relationships with different people at different points. To create a multitude of healthy relationships with other human beings is in the nature of all humans, for it is with other relationships with people that we can grow as our own person. However, there are a number of different and variances of relationships that we as humans will have to make in our lifetime, and the comprehension of how these relationships affect us lay in understanding how these connections react with each other and the boundaries between each type of relationship.
ReplyDeleteOf any relationship, there are a complex amount of emotions and time that both of the parties have to put in to make the relationship a healthy one. Alas, there are relationships that we will have with people that will, for whatever reason, not work out in the end. Whether it be because you have simply lost contact with that person, or because you have had a falling out with that person, some relationships were not just made to last. Oftentimes, we go on with our lives without reflecting back upon how many relationships we have lost over time and distance with people we were once close with. I know that I myself have been guilty of this, one certain example of this of how I, over time, cut all ties with my former friends in my old neighborhood in Philadelphia. Sometimes, it is not intentional, such as in that example that I had just given. Other times, a relationship ends because it is not nurtured. If you create a relationship with someone, and then forget all about them, then the relationship is obviously going to deteriorate. To keep a stable, healthy relationship with a person is one that takes time and effort to create, and even more time to keep. However, a relationship ending is not always a bad thing. For example, if it was an abusive relationship, whether physically, mentally, or emotionally, then that relationship ending is oftentimes something to celebrate. It all depends on the people inside of that relationship, as well as the circumstances surrounding the relationship. Each situation is different. With human nature, there can be no generalizations.
But how do people know when they are in a toxic relationship? Oftentimes, it is when these people sit back and reflect upon how they felt before and during the relationship do they decide whether or not to leave it. Also, it is when they realize that they have to constantly think about where they stand in a relationship that they are made aware that they are most likely in a toxic relationship. A healthy relationship does not make you question where you stand, because in a healthy relationship, both parties treat each other with the respect that they respectively deserve. To have to constantly think about where you stand in a relationship is often a sign that you should leave the relationship. An example of my personal life that I can give is, when I was younger, I had a “best friend” whom I treated with respect, but oftentimes made me feel as if I was inferior to them. Once I got to thinking about where I stood in the mind of this person, I realized that I was thinking these thoughts too often to be in a healthy relationship with this person, and thus decided to walk away from this relationship. Honestly, I felt so much better after I had ended contact with this person. “If you’re constantly having to wonder where you stand with someone, maybe it’s time to stop standing and start walking.”
I shared my blog with Mrs. Mandell at sfmandell@gmail.com since my blog is personal this time and I really wrote from my heart in this blog, I do not really wish to share it with the others.
ReplyDelete“If you’re constantly having to wonder where you stand with someone, maybe it’s time to stop standing and start walking.” This quote could have a plethora of meanings and could mean something different for so many people. It could apply to you or maybe it doesn’t apply to you. You may have some experience with something that this quote could apply to you, or maybe you have been lucky enough to not stand in a position as hard as this. The situations that many people globally have experienced could make sense with quote, but it all depends of the situation you were in, what you experienced, and how it could relate to this quote. Right off the bat, I think of relationships with this quote. Not just romantically, but also friendship and/or relationships that have to do with someone or multiple people in your family. It could deal with romantic relationships as far as being ghosted by someone you thought liked you or haven’t hearing anything from a loved one for days or weeks or even years at a time. You would wonder if they still like you and you wait and wait and wait for a definitive answer, but that definitive answer you may be looking for from that one person may never come. And although it might be the hardest thing to do, it is truly the best thing to do and that is to just walk away. It can be so hard for people to leave other people that they thought really loved them, even if they had been treated horribly by them. If that other person in the relationship is not willing to give you the love, care, attention, and honesty that you need, it may be toxic to even remain with them. Don’t think you are being mean or cheating them over, you are being the strong person and leaving a relationship that you were left deserted and lonely in. If your partner is not providing you with what you need and not treating you well, there is a problem. With no trust or honesty, there is no relationship. This reminds of another quote that I’ve seen before that stated, “A relationship shouldn’t be like a phone with no service. Because what do you do with a phone with no service? You play games. ” This relates so perfectly with this topic. You may still love and care for them, but if they are treating you like dirt or leaving you confused at all with where you’re relationship stands, the best thing to do would honestly be to break it up. Tell them that they have mistreated you and walk away from the toxic relationship that you were once stuck in. Just remember that there are so many other fish in the sea and sometimes, the best thing to do is to keep walking when you’re left standing and waiting for an answer for much too long. Next are the friendships. The broken friendships, most of the time, will hurt 10 times more than a breakup with a boyfriend. I don’t know why, but they tend to be a lot harder for some people. If you have a friend who doesn’t treat you with respect, honesty, or any of the other important friend traits that are needed for a good and healthy relationship, it may be best to leave that friendship behind. It is totally fine to have more than one friend, but if you start to become unloyal and rude to that one friend that has been with you since the beginning, then there is something wrong happening. I have more than one friend, but I still need to stay loyal and good to my main ones. My best friends that have been there since the very beginning and knew me before I even knew myself, must remain with you through everything. No matter how many fights or disagreements, you should never turn your back on the people that are there for you the most. Even when it feels like they wronged you or hurt your feelings, talk it out. There is almost always so much more to be seen than what is on the surface, applying to problems in a friendship. Maybe you misheard a rumor or said the wrong thing, but you should always find your way back and stay true to those who are willing to stay true to you. But if that friend is telling all your secrets or not trying their best to keep in touch with you, there is something wrong.
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ReplyDeleteNow I’m not saying if you don’t go to the mall or hang out with your best friend everyday to stop talking to them, but I am saying that if you have a friend that puts you down and is constantly pressuring you into doing the wrong things, then you need to keep walking and stop standing there waiting for an answer because sometimes the answer you are looking for, may never even come. Lastly, I think of the relationships and close bonds you have with your family. I don’t have much to say on this because I believe the quote relates to romantic relationships and friendships more. But I will say that if your family is treating you bad or not giving you respect or love because of something, you should definitely talk to them or get some help. Family is the one thing that I believe in very strongly. I think that no matter how bad you mess up, your family should be there for you. That is exactly what I follow everyday. No matter how bad I mess up, or get bullied, or feel horrible, I know that back home, my family will always be there for me to provide me with the love, care, and reassurement that I might so badly need in that moment. I think that family will never fail you, not literally of course, but in the state of feeling wanted they never will. I go back home everyday, no matter how bad my day wa, and they are always there to make me feel better. My family is the one thing that never leaves me standing and i know that I will never just be standing there, waiting on an answer from them because I already know it. There are so many instances that could relate to this quote, but it really just depends on who you are, what experiences you have been in, and how you deal with them. In conclusion, if you are ever left standing by yourself and waiting for an answer, even if it’s not the one you want, you should keep walking. Some harmful people and relationships truly should not be worth your time, energy, and feelings.
This past month has been pretty tough for me. Between studying for the NJASK science, practicing for cross country, and just getting myself athletically fit for my upcoming high school cross country and track season. Between all of this, I always wondered how I compared with all the other runners who I competed with.
ReplyDeleteI came in 2nd last year in the meet of champions, and I was trying to become the fastest runner in the district this year. I worked hard during practice and I gradually improved my time. But I always wondered how fast the other guys were. I just wanted to know. I would say that when it comes to sports, I care a little too much about stats. It doesn’t matter which sport it is, I always have to know percentages and other stats. Same thing with cross country. Moreover, I was a little distracted by this fact.
When my first meet came up, I was #1, but my overall time was terrible. I was almost a minute slower that what I ran during practice. When I saw my main competitor run in the heat after me, he beat my time by more than a minute. I was distraught. But I realized that instead of me trying to look at their stats, I should have just been training hard.
Another example of this is on the emotional aspect. As we have talked in class, we all have lost a couple of our good friends. One time in 8th grade, I was accused of liking someone. This was all fake, and a lot of other emotional drama was basically accused of all the emotional drama surrounding many different problems.
I am usually a mentally strong guy. But when I was hit with this type of drama, I was taken back. I had never been part of such chaos. Everyone that I cared about just left me and lined up against me. This deteriorated me. I did not know that people can turn so quickly against you. I was distraught on the lack of trust that my friends had on me. This problem was eventually fixed, but it was too late. A rift was created that could not be fixed. And I always believed that the rift could be fixed. But I was wrong. I always wondered if everything was fixed. But I should have realized that it was time to move on. I eventually did. But I knew that I should have done this a long time ago.
Moreover, I think that you need to continuously evaluate your friends. Because you will realize that as you move forth in your life, some of your friends will have different values than you and you will start distancing yourself from them.m You need to constantly evaluate your surroundings because your friends make you up. They represent you. There are hundreds of people in the world who can be your friend. Losing one or couple will not change anything. Life is harsh. DEAL WITH IT!
By: Raj Joshi
Wondering where you stand with something or someone can be one of the most paralyzing feelings in the world. You get caught in your thoughts and you can’t figure out what’s true or not. You start making things up that aren’t true and try and make them true and it's not a good place to be. I feel like everybody is at a place like the one time or another. In 7th Grade I started becoming jealous of a fellow dancer named Brian. The reason why was that he started out worse than me and he started easily becoming better than me. I didn’t see why he was getting better than me and it really annoyed me. I thought that he was going to make fun of me and I started playing mental games in my mind. I said that he laughed at me when he didn’t and I also said that he had acted snobby. This caused many people to turn on him and Brian to be miserable. I honestly felt bad but I didn’t know what to do. When I was around Brian I hated him, however when I was home I felt awful around how I interacted around him. Up to almost my last interaction with him I was hostile with him. The quote, “If you’re constantly having to wonder where you stand with someone, maybe it's time to stop standing and start walking.” relates to me. The reason why is I realized my relationship with Brian was poisonous towards both of us. I was being a brat and it caused both of us to suffer from it. I knew I had to just distance myself from Brian and not really interact with him until I matured. I don’t know if I’m there yet, but I know I’m better. A few months ago, I wouldn’t have even been able to have admitted that I was making things up with my relationship with Brian. I would say everything was real and then make more up. So I hope I can come back from my mistakes and fix them to improve myself even more.
ReplyDeleteThroughout your life, you are going to make friends and lose friends. That is just how life works. It is a terrible feeling to not know where you stand with people, especially with the people you thought you would have forever, and you thought you could trust. I bet all of us have had to go through times in middle school when you had to let go of a friendship that you relied on so much, and put all your time into. Trust me, I have felt that many times. I have lost friends that I loved so much, and I have lost friends that I told everything to, but I had to deal with it.
ReplyDeleteThe instance I will talk about has to do with a fight my old best friend and I had this year. I am not going to say any names so let us call them pink (I just made up a random word). Pink and I had just started talking to eachother again in seventh grade after another fight I don’t want to talk about. This year we had gotten extremely close, and we even went to calling each other our other half. I told pink everything, and pink told me everything. We were like a dynamic duo, and we could not be separated. All of that changed one night. There had been a lot of drama going on that day, and a lot of things were being said about others. That night, I had told pink how I felt about the whole situation, and everything I felt at the moment. What I said was nothing that I should have said, and pink did not really enjoy what I was saying. Pink even said that their other friends did not like how we were best friends. After a long conversation, pink ended the friendship, and I was devastated. I cried and cried, not knowing what I did that broke us up. Why would pink care what everyone else thought? Why did pink have to do that to me? I was so confused. After that night, by week went terrible. I was so upset and did not know who to trust anymore. Pink tried coming up to me and I just walked away. I did not want to talk to someone who just “ruined” my life. I could not stand looking at Pink. I had cut her out of my life for a good couple of days. It wasn’t until pink came up to me and said how she felt that I started talking to pink again. While I wasn’t talking to her, people told me she was calling me things, and saying terrible things about me. Pink in my eyes at the time was a back stabber, and I did not know what to do anymore. Now we are like best friends, but we do not call it that anymore. I love Pink and would do anything to keep her safe, but at that time this year, I was forced to just walk away, and leave the friendship behind me.
Now I want to talk to everyone reading this and give some advice. If you are in a bad friendship, or one of your best friends just ended the friendship, DO NOT GET UPSET OR WORRY. If they left someone amazing like you, then they were not a friend at all, and you will be able to find someone so much better for you. No matter who you are, you deserve someone who will appreciate you, and stay with you no matter what you say or do in the friendship. They will love you for who you are, and not care about what others say about your friendship. Life has challenges, and these are just the small ones. When you are an adult in your dream job, you are not going to remember what that one person said to you in middle school. Never settle for someone who uses you, or gives up on you easily because you can have so many more better people than that. Do not let one thing ruin you. BE FRIENDS WITH SOMEONE WHO WILL LISTEN TO YOU, AND STAY BY YOUR SIDE EVEN IF YOU SAY SOMETHING THAT HURTS THEM!
To be honest, I’m not completely sure what this quotes means exactly, so I’m going to break it down in the first two paragraphs or so, to help me understand it better and to give the reader a view of how I interpret the quote. “If you're constantly having to wonder where you stand with someone, maybe it’s time to stop standing and start walking.” I'm going to break the quote into two parts, the first part before the comma and the second part after the comma.
ReplyDeleteThe first part states, “If you’re constantly having to wonder where you stand with someone.” That could gesture something about acceptance or pride. To ponder where you stand with someone means you’re expecting someone to have a reaction to what you’ve done. You want some sort of desired action from someone. You expect your actions to be recognized and you're wondering what another person thinks of you based on your actions. When you wonder where you stand with someone, you're trying to figure out what someone else may view you as through how they see you and what they’ve seen you do. You want to make a good impression on others and you want to try to impress them. Constantly wondering where you stand with someone means that you're constantly thinking about how others view you and what you could do to possibly make yourself look better to someone else.
The second part states “Maybe it’s time to stop standing and start walking.” In my interpretation, that means to stop caring about what other people think, to an extant. It means you shouldn’t completely rule out other people’s thoughts. Take them into consideration, but don’t base everything you do off of them. Think about what you want to do, and even if other people don’t exactly like it, you should do it anyway, within reason. For example, if your interested in tennis, yet everyone around you thinks it’s stupid, as long as you enjoy doing it, then you should play tennis. As long as you're not hindering yourself by taking other people’s opinions into consideration, then you're not standing, your walking.
In conclusion, it looks like I’m saying that the quote means to try to be independant some of the time. You should take other people’s opinions and feelings into account, but you should always keep in mind of your own feelings as well. Stop constantly thinking about other people, wondering where you stand with people, and start thinking about yourself and what you want. Stop standing and start walking. However, the main part of this blog was to describe an instance where this applied to me. To the best of my ability and memory, I do not believe this quote has ever been applied to me. I take my own feelings into consideration because I clearly recognize what I want, and even though I do take other people’s feelings and thoughts into consideration, I don’t lose sight of what I want. So, to cut this blog short, this quote has never applied to me, and I doubt it will ever apply to me.
People are extremely complicated. I’d say we’re rather complex with the way that we think feel and behave. People constantly move in and out of your life, as if they are part of a weaving pattern. We don’t really know who will stay and who will leave until people disappear from your life. Until they’ve walked out without a second glance. All throughout our lives, we try to decode who we are and who we want to be and who we think will be there for us. But in reality we don’t have to do that. We could just be patient and wait it out, but that is not part of human nature. We tend to jump the gun, and try to fast forward our lives. We act on impulse, urged by our inner feelings and thoughts. This may lead to conflicts and strife with other people, especially people that we care about.
ReplyDeleteBut, as you may sometimes hurt the people you care about, the people who care about you may also hurt you. People’s true character shows when they go through different experiences and when they react to events that occur. When you realize who people really are, you also begin to wonder where you stand in their lives. I’m the type of person who constantly wonders if I’m appreciated and thought of as much as I think of another person. Ever since I was young, I question where I stand in other people’s lives and what my place is. I try to gage how important I am to them and if I truly mean something to them. Depending on what they see me as, I trust them that much. When I was younger, I never really had that many friends. Even now, my friend circle has expanded but I’m not expeditious to trust people. I have to take my time before I can completely trust people with all my thoughts and feelings.
I feel that I am someone who is worthy of being called a good friend. I tend to always listen and give good advice to people when they need it. But there’s a certain point that everyone lives up to. If when we’re in the middle of a conversation, you begin to cut me off and make the topic about you, I’ll begin to wonder if you really care about me. Sometimes, I’ll understand that you need to get your thoughts off your chest and that you need someone to listen, but if you go on and on about your life, then I don’t feel that is fair. A relationship of any kind, whether it be friendship or more, is a two -way street. If someone makes everything about them, it is no longer an equal bond. For example, if you continuously pile more and more objects on one side of a scale, it’ll get heavier and heavier until there is very little on one side, and the other, weightier side, is all the way down. If you keep putting more on the one side, soon the scale will break. Comparatively, if only one person benefits and benefits from a friendship, soon the friendship will break, because the other person will not want to continue to be used in a friendship.
Friends should be there to help you when you need them most. If you find that, the people who you expected to be with you through everything are not there for you when you needed to depend on them, then it’s time to start thinking about if you really want to be with them. The first time I really started doubting my friendship with someone was during my elementary schools years in dance. I had this one friend who acted one way around me and differently around other people. From her actions, I got the feeling that she would rather hang out with the other girls then me. Once, I even asked if she considered me a close friend. I can’t exactly remember what she responded, but I know that after that I kept my distance. We were still friends, but we were a bit more competitive towards each other and became slightly more possessive over certain friends. But, it taught me a good lesson on how not to continue wondering where I might stand in someone’s life. Ever since then, I’ve had a pretty straightforward approach to how I view myself in other people’s lives.
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ReplyDeleteNow, there’s so much more I can say about this, and I tried not to make this blog too personal, but I’ve learned much over the past few years. I don’t spend too much of my time trying to figure out who I am to someone else. It’s not worth continuously dwelling on a relationship that might be unhealthy or unstable. They should know where they stand in mine and if I give the other person all that I can give and if they do not give 100% back, then I stop wondering and start walking out of their life. I know that if I don’t have to doubt where stand in someone else’s life then they are either not as important to me or they are a factor that I can always depend on in my life. Because people come and go like the waves of the ocean, but only the ones who stay are truly the ones who matter.
“If you’re constantly having to wonder where you stand with someone, maybe it’s time to stop standing and start walking.” I think this is a pretty easy quote to understand. All it is really talking about is if you keep wanting to know if you are still on good terms with a friend or someone or not you should stop being friends or stop talking with them. When you are at school or at work you have to deal with a lot of different people. You form relationships with these people you interact with. Some of them are close and you become good friends with them or you might not have a good relationship and you might feel resentment towards that person. These are all healthy relationships. You need to have some good and bad relationships so that you could grow as a person. In middle school, I made a lot of friends because there were much more people that I did not know. Some of my new friends helped me get into things I would not have known about otherwise, like anime or some book series. Then I made more friends who also had similar interests as me. Of course, not all of them were like that. I had friends in elementary school who I used to hang out with and when we came to middle school I never really talked to them again. Either because they found a new group to be a part of or they changed over the summer by becoming more arrogant and rude; which is the kind of people I do not like to be friends with. Like this year I had a friend who used to sit with me on the bus and then one day he decided to sit with the popular kids at the back of the bus. I am still sort of friends with him but we are not as close as we were in elementary school. Going back to the quote I have never been in a “friendship” like that, so I do not personally understand what it feels but I do know people who have had a relationship like that. If you are constantly thinking about what another person thinks of you I would not be friends with them. I generally do not care about what other people think of me but if I did I would just cut ties with them. I would never want to be stressing out about what someone is thinking of me. Being constantly worried about what someone is saying to their friends about you behind your back. They are not really your friends if are talking about you behind your back. The second part of the quote says, “Maybe it’s time to stop standing and start walking.” That shows that if you are doubting someone because they seem like the are not honest or anything else a friend should be with you, you should just walk away from them and stop being friends with them.
ReplyDeleteWOW! You guys truly spoke from the heart. Best of luck in Grade 9! You are all rockstars and WILL soar in all that you do. Please stay in touch...
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